DSM: Kids/Adults

Jennie Ladew (jennie@ziplink.net)
Wed, 27 May 1998 13:34:56 -0400

Joe,

I disagree. I find nothing wrong with adults (any adults) making suggestions
to kids, so long as it is done in an environment in which the freedom to say
"no" is in place. To withhold this option from adults is to require them to
leave a part of themselves "at the door" when they arrive at school. Part of
what I enjoy in my relationships with my friends of all ages is the cross-
fertilization of ideas and knowledge. Why should I forego this in my
relationships with those who are younger than 20?

Alan

Dear Alan,
I haven't written on this list in months, because mostly I have nothing to
add and I don't feel like debating for the sake of it, but I wanted to say
I agree with your post ten-fold. I homeschool, although have briefly
visited Sudbury, and am somewhat familiar with alternative models of
education.

I think for an adult or anyone not to suggest or share with children is
denying the child an opportunity to learn and experience something they may
not have considered or come across on their own. There's a big difference
in being able to suggest and the other person saying NO THANKS or something
and being forced to partake in an activity.

Then again I personally have to partake in things I don't want to all the
time, so I don't think it's the worst thing anyhow.

Jennie